“You may not be the CEO of a large company, but you are the CEO of your life.” — Jon Taffer
It’s not just a recent thought with me, but ever since I was adult enough to really take note that society consisted of rich and poor people and, of course, a wide range of what one would call rich or poor in between.
Why were some guys forever unemployed while others rarely had the need to visit an employment office? And, of course, the in-between that I mentioned above. Some become great successes at their jobs, while others barely managed to keep their bills paid.
All of us can point to someone in our life and say, “Yes, I know him. We’re friends. He’s rich,” you emphasis. You secretly envy him and wish that you were as successful as he is.
So, why aren’t you as successful?
That question immediately brings up reasons for failure or success. Failure reasons might include, “I never had the opportunity to be a success like my brother had!”
“He was the oldest in the family, and my parents doted more on him than on me!”
“It’s easier for men to get ahead in the business world than for a woman!”
“I’m not as brainy as he is!”
… ad nauseum.
You’ll notice that the blame for failure is, in all cases, shifted away from oneself. It’s not your fault that you’re a failure!
O.k., so those were the reasons (excuses?) for failure. My next question obviously follows, “if your brother is more successful than you, why? What circumstances/reasons/excuses does your brother blame … scratch that – what circumstances does your brother contribute to his success?
Notice the difference here? The successful person analysis his situation and accepts his circumstances and works with what he’s got, while the person who considers himself a failure blames his failure on a bad roll of dice he got out of life. Again, it’s not his fault he’s a failure!
I’m sure that you’re familiar with the saying, “If life hands you a lemon, make lemonade.”
You say, you don’t know how to make lemonade, learn how! And you’ll be almost guaranteed to be as successful as your brother.